Woman's Roommate Calls Her 'Selfish' for Refusing to Take Her 8-Year-Old Son on a 7-Hour Holiday Road Trip

A woman is asking if she's in the wrong for not letting her roommate's son come along for her holiday trip with her husband.

In a post on the AITAH subreddit, the original poster (OP) shared that she, 28, and her husband, 25, moved in with a roommate, who has an 8-year-old son, about five months ago after needing to move quickly.

"He’s a nice kid and often wants to tag along with us when we go places," she explained. "Sometimes we do take him with us for short outings, but not always — especially for trips that are far or when his parents won’t be coming along."

She went on to explain that she and her husband planned a seven-hour holiday roadtrip to visit her family with their three daughters — an 8-month-old, a 2-year-old and a 7-year-old.

"Our truck only seats five, so bringing our roommate’s son would make six, which isn’t even possible," she explained. "Beyond that, it feels like a huge responsibility to take a child we’ve only known for a few months on such a long trip, especially when his parents would be staying behind and nowhere nearby if something happened."

OP said that she expressed this to her roommate, who then "got upset and said I was being selfish."

"She told me that since I 'called the shots' and didn’t want her son to go, she would no longer allow him to go anywhere with us again," she wrote. "I told her she has every right to feel that way, but so do I."

"Since then, she’s also told me I can’t use anything in the shared kitchen, even though I’ve helped with groceries for her a handful of times," OP continued. "I agreed just to avoid more conflict, but I’m starting to feel tension in the household."

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OP ended her post asking if she was wrong for not allowing her roommate's son to come along for the trip. Many commenters responded under the post saying that her roommate was in the wrong, with one user adding that the woman is "being unreasonable."

"She is being unreasonable! Her child is not your responsibility, and is not your responsibility to take on vacation," they wrote. "If she continues to make things hostile, start looking for a place to live. This is only going to get worse, and things will get more hostile. So start looking and have an exit plan. This whole situation is very toxic, and not safe for your family."

Another commenter also suggested that OP find another place to live.

"Start looking for a new place to live, right now. It may take a while to find somewhere and you now know that this woman is going to be unreasonable and punish you and your children when she doesn't get her way," they wrote. "Do NOT take her kid anywhere going forwards, no excuses. If she's this unreasonable, she could flip and accuse you of kidnapping. Lock the doors to your rooms while you're gone."