Mom Snaps Back at Parent for Calling Her Kids ‘Rude’ at Costco After They Take All the Free Samples

A parent turned to the Reddit community for advice after a tense encounter at Costco sparked an unexpected debate about parenting, manners and public behavior. 

The parent explained they were shopping at the wholesale store with their 2-year-old son when they stopped for a free sample. “There was a sample lady almost done cutting up an apple so I waited for her to finish, as were a few other people,” the poster wrote. “As soon as she placed them on the table, these two young boys maybe age 7-8 swoop in and take all of the samples.”

According to the post, the sudden grab shocked everyone waiting in line. “I was appalled. Everyone else was in disbelief too,” the parent shared. Another shopper even spoke up, saying, “Did they just take all of the samples???” The situation escalated when the original poster approached the children’s mother to address what had happened.

“I saw them take their samples back to their mom’s shopping cart so I walked by them and said that was awfully rude to not leave any samples for anyone else to try,” the parent explained. But instead of an apology, they were met with hostility. “Their mom heard and told me to F off because they’re free and the lady will just cut more.”

The Reddit user admitted feeling conflicted after the exchange. “I feel a little bad because they are kids, and that behavior was clearly taught by their feral mother,” the parent wrote, adding that they still believed the children “needed to be told that was incredibly rude.” 

Despite the tension, the story ended on a calmer note. “The sample lady cut some more and gave me the first one so I could give it to my son so all was well in the end,” they shared, adding, “I understand they’re just apples but some of you parents are nuts.”

The post struck a nerve online, drawing hundreds of comments and sparking a discussion about when it’s appropriate to call out bad behavior in public — especially from children. One commenter was quick to defend OP's reaction, writing, “NTA. They were rude, as was their mother. People who defend them are the same ones who would let their kids do the same.”

Another Reddit user agreed with the sentiment but suggested a gentler approach might have been more effective. 

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“Calling people out, including children, for clear-cut bad behavior is acceptable,” the commenter wrote. “I probably would have used a more constructive phrase like not being considerate or asking if they made sure that other customers could also have a chance to try a sample.”

They added that while the parent wasn’t wrong, tone matters when trying to teach a lesson. “It’s less confrontational and also requires deeper thinking for the kids (and especially adults),” the comment continued.

“If you’re actually trying to teach someone a lesson, at least be explicit. Otherwise be mindful that you may technically be in the right, but lashing out to express frustration is also not the best look.”