Dad-to-Be Says 'Family Comes First,' but He’s Torn About Giving Up His Sports Car for Pregnant Partner

A man said his pregnant partner is asking him to trade in his sports car before she gives birth, but he can't quite wrap his head around her rationale.

In a post on Reddit, the 31-year-old dad-to-be said his pregnant partner, 28, recently asked him to trade in the car because it has a manual transmission, which she does not know how to drive.

Her argument, he said, was that she would not be able to drive his sports car in the event of an emergency. Rather than learn to drive the vehicle, however, she insisted he sell it.

But the man said the vehicle was his “pride and joy” and “the only ‘nice’ thing I have.”

“I totally understand and agree with the logic behind it,” he explained, “but I cant understand why she won't learn to drive manual.”

The man also pointed out that, according to those he spoke with on Facebook, “a baby seat can fit in the back just fine.”

“The sacrifices she is going through to have our baby both mentally and physically are not lost on me and I am so incredibly proud of her,” he wrote. “Maybe I just need a different perspective.”

Many of those who responded to the post saw the dilemma from both angles, feeling it was not wrong of the man to want to keep his car but also sympathizing with the woman’s desire to have two cars they could both drive.

“I’m betting OP’s partner doesn’t want their car to become the default family car, while OP gets to have a nice car to himself,” they wrote, noting that this is a “common struggle” that many new parents experience.

Others were more firm and sided with the soon-to-be mom, pointing out that this may not be the best time for the woman to start learning a new way of driving.

“It might seem easy to you, but it sounds like it is very intimidating for her,” read one reply. “The last thing she needs now, or during the next several years, is an extra challenge.”

“Expecting her to learn to drive manual during this period of her life … is not only stressful, but it simply is something that many people never learn to do," another commenter wrote. “I don't think her request is unreasonable, people make sacrifices all the time when they're making a life with a partner and family in mind rather than just themselves."

Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.

Others had a sassier take.

“I say this as someone who has a very nice sports car that I love driving, it’s a car,” one Reddit user replied. “It is not an extension of your manhood and calling it your pride and joy with a kid on the way is kind of sad."

In an edited update, the original poster thanked the various Reddit users for weighing in. “I have a lot to think about,” he wrote, “but at the end of the day the family comes first.”